In life, We all have a choice to make. We can use our mind like a weapon to protect us and to teach out into the world and build a future for ourselves. Or, conversely, we can allow the issues of life to render us aimless and helpless passengers that watch every good thing pass us by and land somewhere else. It all becomes our choice, one way or the other, willfully or un-willfully, passive or aggressive.
So what are you choosing?
We are all challenged to handle negative situations in life from childhood through adulthood. You can use negative events, people, and issues in your life as fuel or fire. The analogy is, visualize yourself as a car and your brain is your gas tank.. If you put fire in the gas tank of a car, the car blows up. If you put fuel in your engine, your car goes forward. Gas only lasts so long and you have to continually refuel..for the rest of your life.
What is Fire
When you allow negative events, ideas or people to weigh you down mentally you are, in effect, putting fire in your gas tank. Fire slows you down to a grinding halt and has the ability to affect you negatively long-term. This is the cause of many mental issues for some people many years after the initial event or situation has happened. You have to participate in order to allow something to impact you years after the initial event or situation. You can’t ignore some things that happen to you in your life, you must deal with them head on,because ignoring the negativity is the same thing as accepting it. All things that happen to you can be framed as fuel or fire. It is up to your ability to frame things in your life. If you don’t consciously choose to frame as fuel, things become, by default, fire, and could lead to mental issues and trouble down the road in life. So the big question is…
What is Fuel
When you choose to frame negative events, ideas or people as sources of personal motivation, you are choosing to use negative things that happen to you to YOUR ADVANTAGE. This is framing things that have the potential to hurt or harm you as fuel by using these negative forces as motivation. Children who have been deserted by a parent that decide to use this void as personal motivation to become great, understand how to use their misfortune as fuel. So when some peers around them decide to cut class, the desire to make the deserted parent regret deserting is a stronger motivating force than the desire to appease the peers. Great professional athletes, great musicians and great people in general have figured out how to frame negatives in their favor for years… I often speak at high schools to students and I explain this theory that I developed a name for out of pure self-analysis.. The Fuel or Fire Choice… is my name for my theory and the visual picture of the gas tank and fire or a gas tank and fuel was a visual picture that students seemed to easily understand so the name has stuck all these years..
So just remember it is your choice. Fuel or Fire.
In Abundance,
Anson Massey
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